Many of us grew up believing that boundaries push people away and that saying no means we’re being selfish, difficult, or unkind. But in truth, boundaries are not walls that shut people out. They are bridges that help us stay connected with honesty, safety, and respect. When we don’t have clear boundaries, relationships can start […]

The Gottman Method, developed by renowned psychologists Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, is a scientifically-based approach to couples therapy that focuses on strengthening relationships and addressing the challenges that arise in romantic partnerships. Drawing on over four decades of research, the Gottman Method has become one of the most effective and well-regarded therapies for […]

Perspective taking is an important skill for couples. We feel heard, seen and understood when someone is able to see things from our point of view. What is Perspective Taking? Perspective taking is the ability to seek out understanding to see the world through another’s eyes. This skill uses our working memory, cognitive flexibility and […]

We all extend bids of connection in our relationships – this is how we connect, relate and engage with one another during small moments each day. What are bids of connection and how can we recognize when we or our partner are extending a bid? A bid of connection is simply one person extending an […]